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Bare Bones of Parenting – the Advice You Need to Hear the Most

Out of the unending parenting advice you receive when you first become a mother or a father, the practical tips below are the ones that truly matter the most.

Take these tips to heart, and you’ll see how much both you and your child will benefit as you grow together.

Practice Kindness

Children tend to mimic their parents, so being the best possible role model you can possibly be can make a huge difference in your child’s entire life.

Be kind to your child, and to others.  It’s kind of amazing when you recognize your child doing those same behaviors on their own as they become older.

Bedtime is Important

One of the best things you can do for your child is to adhere to a strict bedtime.  Keeping your child on a reliable schedule can help prevent many behavioral issues, and the longer you go without enforcing a strict bedtime, the more those problems can increase.

Of course, this means that you might need to adjust your own schedule in order to make this happen, but that’s kind of what being a parent is all about.

It’s Okay for Kids to Fail

Some parents push their children so hard to succeed in just about everything, but fail to teach their kids that it’s also perfectly okay to not be the best, and that letting others win can be just as rewarding.  What matters the most is that they simply try their best.

Let Your Children Choose What to Read

You might think that pushing literary masterpieces at your child is the way to go, but the simple truth is that if that as long as they’re reading, all that matters is that they’re reading.

Graphic novels are totally okay, as they can also help to encourage a lifelong love of reading.

Take Care of Yourself

You might be guilty of throwing yourself so deeply into parenting that you forget to also take care of your own needs.  Your children need you to be strong, healthy and happy.

Recognize What Triggers Tantrums

If your child is throwing a tantrum during the younger years, there is usually a really good reason for it.  Don’t assume that your child is just misbehaving and need to be punished.  Instead, take the time to listen, and memorize this acronym:  H.A.L.T.

Your child is most likely Hungry, Agitated, Lonely or Tired, and it’s your job as the parent to figure out how to fix the situation.

Don’t Be a Short-Order Cook

Seriously.  Just don’t.  Your child won’t starve.  Children are smarter than you might realize, and they’ll catch on very quickly if they notice that you’re willing to make a separate meal just for them.

Encourage your child to try new foods, and introduce new foods often from an early age.

Expect Clean Rooms Without Payment

Your child should learn to clean their own room without expecting to be paid for it.  Help encourage them to have pride in their belongings and to help out because it’s the right thing to do.

Lower Your Voice to Be Heard

A lot of parents believe that yelling or using anger is the best way to get their child’s attention when they’ve done something wrong, but it’s the opposite that actually holds true.

Kids can desensitize themselves if you often yell at them, but they’re more likely to pay attention if you lower your tone.

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Maisie Peterson